I have been heart broken to hear the news of sudden passing away of David Goldberg, CEO of Surveymonkey, and Sheryl Sandberg’s (COO of Facebook) husband. And I send prayers to Goldberg family and friends.
My dad used to say that “I want to empower my children and wife that they have a good life long after I am gone”.
He passed away in 2007 at 63. He was a true believer that his best gift to the family is not the number of years he lives but leaves behind empowered souls who can then take care of themselves and many more.
When I reflect on this is the wake of the recent events, I feel that David’s life was a true testament that he empowered his wife, children and his colleagues and left the world better place because he was here.
Of course! the loss is always real. And no one can fill the vacuum once you lose your pillars of strength.
The point is that life is fragile and we need to live consciously every day to make sure that we live fully not only for ourselves but also for those we love.
It counts – your small initiatives, giving someone food or your time, bringing a smile or making someone stop crying, giving compassion to the ill or encouragement to the disillusioned – so keep doing it because it all adds up.
Have a great week
What is Grit?
Angela Lee Duckworth in her TED talk says, Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals. Grit having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future, day in, day out, not just for the week, not just for the month, but for years, and working really hard to make that future a reality. Grit is living life like it’s a marathon, not a sprint…
Here are three pillars of a winning attitude
To build excellence, we have to lead in a way where we encourage effort. Since there are no inherent abilities, we can substitute effort to build ability. So, have the courage, persistence to outwork your competitor. Have the desire & attitude to excel in your undertaking…simply have grit.
We resist investing in building environments that inspire and create leadership, philosophy and opportunity. Risk needs to built into our DNA. And new ways of playing the game need to be fostered. Find and stick with grit with people who have a winning attitude. Wean off negative energy immediately – it will get to you sooner or later.
We are slaves to instant gratification. Remember, there is a lot you don’t know. Keep learning. Develop an unending quest for knowledge and grit to obtain it. Learn from the best and apply your knowledge to develop a competitive advantage. World class performers are always looking for world class coaches.
In my recent trip to India, I was in Connaught Place in Delhi. Close to the round-about, I saw a vendor selling books. I bent over to see all the books on display. And this book caught my eye. It was like I wasn’t looking for it but still have been on a quest to find it. It was based on the epic book of Mahabharat. I grew up in India and I have been surrounded by tales from my grandparents, from TV soap operas and even references to it in our festivals. However, never read it and was never convinced on the interpretations I was being offered. So, I believe I was in a search but wasn’t aware I was looking.
I started reading it on my flight back and since then have squeezed in every moment to finish reading and have been feverishly underlining text in the book. It completely absorbed me.
Gurucharan Das, in his book, “The Difficulty of Being Good“, offers a very compelling narrative on the evolution of the word “Dharma” and it subtleties. The book draws parallels to Aristotle, Tolstoy, Socrates which further enriched my reading experience since my knowledge was limited in their works. And the biggest take-away was the beauty in which it was all weaved together with views from modern philosophers.
I believe the book requires a couple of reads to get the most out of it. Still, if Dharma as a subject that interests you, it is a must read. Gurucharanji has offered current day situations and juxtaposition of the same to Mahabharata’s making it amazingly pragmatic. To me, his personal quest in search of Dharma (he spent years studying the same under scholars at the University of Chicago), is inspiring too.
As corporate leaders in today’s world making tough decisions, competing, increasing share holder values on a daily basis, it examines difficulty of being good. Also, offers the distinction of “swadharma” (personal dharma) and “sadharana dharma” (universal dharma) to provide context to the dilemma.
In conclusion, the book offers compassion as a key component in going through the ambiguity and complexity of life situations. I couldn’t agree more. It is not about the doing the right thing but doing it with compassion. Finally, an interpretation I find valuable. Thanks Gurucharandas ji!
Must read and a life reference book. Enjoy.
It continues to be a fun Diwali season and it is great time to meet people who you haven’t met in a long time. You run into them at parties and the ever popular question is the icebreaker – “What are you up to these days?” Ironically, most of us (including myself) start with “I am really busy”.
On one such evening, we all laughed so hard when we found ourselves hiding behind this response. These days, it is a social norm to say this. Almost adds a one’s sense of belongingness to human race. Imagine! if you are the only one saying “I am not busy”, you could be an outcast or judged.
I am not saying it is good or bad to be busy. What I am saying is that, “Are we really that busy?” Answer varies from person to person.
Irony is, we are the first generation that is most connected with advancements in technology so resources are not limited to connect. Is it time? Is it stress? Or is it fear?
All I know, we all realized at that instance that sometimes it sounds like an awful excuse. We laughed so hard – it was hysterical.
It is a word that we ignore easily. It is right we grew up in the world “don’t cry over spilt milk”. The point of this is that it is pointless to worry about something that can’t be undone. The problem I have is what if we ask a different question – why do we feel bad about spilling milk and why is it making us cry?
The pointless appears only after we have are faced with a result we don’t like. Yes, the popular notion is, if we made better choices we would have had better results. The point is that life choices are not like mathematical problems. By doing something right, there are no guarantees of getting the right result. So, it is hard to know what is the right or the wrong result. To cry or not to cry.
It is pointless
– when you make yourself wrong for the result
– to feel bad about feeling bad
– to think that you will not cry again
My point is know that there is nothing wrong with spilling milk. It is likely you don’t even like milk. So, if you like it, cry a bit and just know only that milk on the floor is gone and you will never have it (but the cat might). Still, it is possible that milk was bad for you. And even if had not gone bad, now you have a chance to find better milk…c’est la vive.
My 2 cents – creating value for the customer is vital.
What is the Deja-vu?
Facebook and Zynga had a torrid love affair and then the market picked who was going to win and who was going to loose. The relationship is epic – the race to cash lowered the barriers to entry for developers,marketers became growth hackers and the disruption continued to mobile.
And here we go again…
Here we are now in a new era of mobile user acquisition, where cash is king. In a world where, big get bigger, marketers with little to offer other than a free game are trying to navigate chaotic world of mobile marketing. Of the experts, most look like digital marketers from the dotcom bubble, recent grads with a blend of analytics,hustle, and creativity, tasked with figuring out something that didn’t exist previously. They are tasked with getting users at low costs -but marketing budgets lack a focus on ROI.
The big question is whether this deja-vu resembles all the me-too, low quality games that came out of social gaming and made money. If yes, we can buy into the incessant love of a business model that defies law of economics. But the real question is, is this again the marketing dollars dictating what consumers find or is it the creativity of developers that make people say “I want that at any price” .
Here is the presentation
There is no dearth of books, people and courses advising us to “bring 100% of ourselves” to our jobs, tasks and relationships. Though it’s very sound advice, it’s easier said than done. As women, we’re often faced with stereotypes about what our “100%” will look like. For example, we’re told that women are “emotional” and “competitive with each other.” Here are some tips to help you bring your authentic “100%,” and avoid buying into the stereotypes.
Continue to read my blog on womenworking.com : Defy Stereotypes and Be Genuine
Many corporations, teams and groups find themselves engulfed in political dramas. The problem with drama is that it is only entertaining on Television. Rest everywhere, it adds stress, lowers productivity and demoralizes people. It stems from insecurity and contaminates the environment, thereby, spreading and effecting everyone in the mix. Seth Godin, recently, wrote an article, emotional handwashing which captured this beautifully.
High-performance is a skill that neutralizes all political drama. It is a commitment to stay focused and insulate yourself from negativity. It attracts like minded folks and builds a strong , non-judgmental support network. It requires taking full-responsibility (no passing the blame).
Results of high-performance – building leadership skills, solid relationships, accountability and self-confidence.
So, No politics – only results!
In honor of National Women’s History Month, I’m excited to announce my friend Helene Lerner is hosting a seven-part Webinar, based on her popular book, In Her Power: Reclaiming Your Authentic Self. It offers groundbreaking techniques that have helped thousands of women step into their power. My story is part of this book along with the others who inspired me. Thanks to Helene for the opportunity to be part of the book and the TV show that followed the popular book.
Below are the seven modules that we will explore, designed to create transformation in your life.
- Your Unique Destiny
- Accepting the Discomfort of Change
- Appreciating All Aspects of You
- Expressing Yourself Genuinely
- Acting with Confidence
- Building a Power Web
- Inspiring Other Women
Each of these modules will give you a different facet of your power. And I am excited to extend a special invite to the webinar that starts on March 24th. It is nominally priced – please click here to register.
About Helene Lerner
Helene is a respected keynote speaker and the founder of WomenWorking.com, one of the premier websites for career women worldwide. The course includes daily support through “Power Nuggets” delivered directly to your inbox.
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