Last month was very eventful…I was in a car accident. Yes! I consider this as one event that shook me the most. It was an event that woke me up. The good news is that I came out of it with minimum injuries. The car was not that lucky.

Though I think of myself as a competent driver – I couldn’t reason out why and how I got into this accident.

The biggest outcome of this accident, I wanted to slow down and spend time with my mom. I also decided to take a trip to get a new perspective on things…I was asked to get a balance in life. While I sit around I wonder why smart people can’t figure out balance in life.

1. Misleading leadership theories: I am sure some of you are as confused as I am when you read things like “Winners never Quit”. And on the other hand, you hear things like “Real happiness is not in winning or losing – it is in playing the game“. Ok, if this is the reason then what if you find that while you were wining in one aspect of life you are losing miserably in another. So, if “winners don’t quit”, then something is wrong with you when you decide to give something up – in short “You are loser”.

2. Nothing succeeds like success: Ok, I agree. There is no better high than success. But the real question is “What is success?” If owning luxurious cars, big homes and taking trips all over the world is success…THINK again. Now, if success is helping others get ahead, connecting people selflessly and finding inspiration from doing good in the world – then what about the bills that come every month.

3. Busyness over FAMILY: This is the real kicker – suddenly you are so busy that you don’t have time to spend time with your family, do things that matter to you – and then it is sexy to be independent and not interdependent on your support system. I overheard my friend tell his father, “Dad, I am in a meeting – I have 2 min to talk to you and then I have to take a flight”. And the other day, I met a business associate say to her daughter, “Take my iPhone – don’t talk to me – can’t you see I am busy”. The icing on the cake was, ” my mom is in the hospital – I can’t leave to be with her because I don’t have vacation”.

Even though I sit to figure what balance is in life – I know one thing – the limitations are only in our minds. Take that vacation you always wanted to take, spend as much time with your mom – she is the only one who really lights up when you enter the room and money can buy things but really “How much is Enough?”